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Thank you for sharing your story with the world. It does take courage. Your story will let others who have been through this know that they are not alone. Wishing you and your family strength through these difficult times.

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Sep 17Liked by Brian Potter

My heart goes out to you both... to all three of you. To elect to be parents is to expose yourselves to all the joys and ... all the sorrows, though this sorrow no one should have to endure. My deepest condolences. Thank you for writing this. I am sure it was very hard to write. If it is any consolation, there is now at least one more person in the world who will not forget Max.

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Sep 17Liked by Brian Potter

I'm so sorry, Brian. Thanks so much for sharing. A coworker also lost his son days after birth and found support in the Sad Dad Club (https://saddadsclub.com). Wish you and your family well on your road to recovery.

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Sep 17Liked by Brian Potter

Thank you so much for sharing this tragic story; of loss, but also of love, and the persistence of it in the face of pain and heartache profound

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Sep 17Liked by Brian Potter

I read this and cried. I had a complicated pregnancy myself, although with a happier ending, and I remember feeling so isolated and reluctant to share what was really going on with friends and family. And of course, losing a child is just incredibly tragic. Thank you so much for sharing this story. I'll be thinking of you and your family.

On a different note, as you allude to, it's appalling that state restrictions are interfering in what should be private decisions between pregnant people and their doctors. We know that it is already costing lives, but even when that doesn't happen, it adds a horrible layer of bureaucracy to already wrenching decisions.

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Sep 17Liked by Brian Potter

Sorry to hear of your loss. It also blows my mind how high the statistics around pregnancy complications can be. I had a friend lose his wife right after delivery due to bleeding, something that you would think would be pretty rare with modern medicine.

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Sorry for your loss, and sorry to hear that state laws made it harder.

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Sep 17Liked by Brian Potter

Max. Rest in peace, and my sympathies to his courageous parents. I am in tears after reading your post. J P Dwyer

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Sep 17Liked by Brian Potter

Amen. Tears. RIP....and courage to Mom and Dad.

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What an experience. I'm so sorry for you and your family. Thank you for sharing this.

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I will pray for your family. Thank you for sharing this story. Max was and is loved so much.

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Sep 17Liked by Brian Potter

So sorry for ur loss. My wife and I know ur pain. After 3 losses like urs , our miracle son was born. He just turned 29. We thank God for his life every day. Prayers for you and ur baby. The pain is gut wrenching.

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I am so sorry for your loss. We lost six children in the first trimester. I hope the photos are a comfort. We also think about some of the places or special things we did while pregnant as particular to the life of the child we did them with while they were with us in utero.

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Sep 17Liked by Brian Potter

I’m so sorry for your loss, Brian. My wife had a miscarriage, and even though we had a healthy baby after it still hurts. Thank you for sharing, I know this will touch a lot of people.

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This is a beautiful tribute and a testament to the love of two incredible parents. I hope that telling this story and receiving blessings from your audience can carry you two forward in your healing journey. Your vulnerability allows us to meet each other on a more human level, as we always should. Thank you.

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I cried reading this. So sorry for your loss.

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I am so glad you were able to find a NILMDTS photographer. Right now it seems like a small thing, but in a few months or years it will not. Someday you will share the pictures of the baby brother she never knew with Mercy, and it will change the person she grows up to be.

You and your wife and Max were all in my prayers this morning and will be for many days.

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